Stuff Gets Connected To Stuff

We call the relationship between "stuff and stuff —"meaning." ■This summarizes what we mean by "the magic box" and by the conceptual "equation" that we have coded inside the box. As we move through life, we link things with things. Some of this linking reflects pretty accurate mapping of processes—some does not! In one of the big earthquakes that shook southern California in the 1980s—just prior to the quake, a mother became upset with her little 5 year old for slamming a door in the house. Just has she began a new rebuke and stating that "something really bad will happen if you keep doing this," the little boy slammed the door and then the whole house shook and trembled, dishes crashed to the floor, lamps came tumbling down, etc. This absolutely terrified the little boy —who in his nervous system—connected "slamming the door" with causing an Earthquake. He also connected, "arguing with mom" as leading to an Earthquake. This illustrates that the "logic" inside the human nervous system doesn't have to be "logical" in a formal way, reflecting the best of mature human thinking. The psycho-logic inside the nervous ^System can, and does, connect all kinds of irrational things together. " Yet once it links something with something else—the brain, nervous System, and all connecting human tissue (which means all the somatic, physical, body stuff inside you!) "knows" at a neurological - level that "sassing mom creates devastating effects!" This creates "intuitive" knowledge.

jWa Box Stuff Together

In "the magic box" we have used more formal language to ■encode the linking of things together. This begins the meaning-fhaking process. Thus the formula of X=Y or as you'll find here: E.B,=|.s. This refers to how we take an external behavior (like slamming a door, sassing mom) and link it up so that it leads to (Cause—> Effect) or equates to ("means," Complex Equivalence)

some internal state or significance (i.e. disaster, pain, horror, etc.). This summarizes how we, linguistically, encode our understandings of how a stimulus and a response get connected.

In the neuro-linguistic model (NLP), the Meta-Model, which describes how language works, presents the first two key distinctions. In the new and extended Meta-Model (Hall, 1998, The Secrets of Magic), the third distinction comes from Korzybski's work in General Semantics;

• Cause —> Effect statements (C-E): This X leads to thisY.

• Complex Equivalences (Ceq): This X means this Y.

• Identification (Id): This X means this Y about me.

The EB in the formula stands for "This external behavior that I can see, hear, feel, smell, taste, etc.," and the > = stands for "leads to, equals or equates with,", and the IS stands for some "internal significance, feeling, state, etc."

In This Way We Create The "Magical Meaning Box"

This happens because "saying" and thinking that something equals something else makes it so—at least, it makes it so in human neurology.

"When she looks at me with that expression, I feel discounted."

"When he talks to me in that tone of voice, I know he is angry with me."

In this way, we actually and literally speak "reality" (i.e. our internal, subjective reality) into being. Once we do, it then begins to run our neurology (e.g. emotions, behaviors, responses).

Further, this magic meaning box functions like a "black box" inside of us. What does this phrase refer to? It suggests that most of the time we don't have the slightest idea of how we have constructed our meanings, or what meanings operate within us as our "programs."

Meaning primarily operates at un-conscious levels inside us. They operate as our meta-frames of references, and so like the canopy of the sky that provides our atmosphere, meaning exists as a conceptual canopy that we seldom notice. And yet we breath and jive and move within it, and it determines most of our experiences, , emotions, states, etc. After all, it governs the weather of our mind-^and-emotions.

, Finally, these languagedequationsthat connect things generate our "meanings." This makes them central to our experiences, skills, abilities, emotions, etc. To change we have to change these , aquations. And when we do change the equations (the neuro-iinguistic equations)—magic happens. Everything becomes . transformed. New realities pop into existence. , Now, for the last two Conceptual Understandings about Meaning:

7} Meaning exists in multiple frames simultaneously. Now we «■get to the problem of complexity. We not only have primary level 1 "meaning™—this action, experience, event, set of words linked to and connected to this idea, thought, feeling, state, etc. (The EB >= IS formula that comprises the heart of the Mind-Lines model), but we also have EB=IS formulas linked to and connected with EB=IS ' formulas.

Thus to a salesperson a "custom" may "mean" "a source of income," if the person has linked the person looking to buy a product as having that significance to him or her. Of course, a 1 "customer" may also mean other things: "someone who may reject '«roe," "someonewho I may enjoy getting to know," "an opportunity to practice my skills," etc. 1All of that exists as primary level connections: "This X means this ' Y." But we humans have minds that don't stay put. Wouldn't you . %iow it? Just as soon as we create a meaning formula, we can k 'then have a thought (another meaning formula) about that first one.

other words, we think about our thinking. We have feelings about • our feelings.

* This initiates multiple-levels of meanings. Suppose we begin with - 9 Primary level thought: "This person may reject me." How do you think or feel about that? Do you like it? No? Now we have—

"I hate my thoughts-and-feelingsof feeling vulnerable about being rejected by people."

And how do you feel about your hatred of your sensitivity-to-

rejection feelings? You feel guilty about that?

Guilty for feeling hate/contempt for sensitivity to rejection.

And how do you feel about that? And so on it goes!

[To understand the structure of this word magic in terms of how they work inside our heads, we must understand the concept of how our brains can have thoughts about thoughts, and then more thoughts about those thoughts. We refer to this kind of neurological functioning of the brain as "reflexivity." This means that the processing feeds back into itself so that as a cybernetic system, our brain processes its own previous products.]

These meta-level meanings refer to meaning above other meanings that reference off of previous meanings, hence the word "meta" (above, beyond, about). More technically, we describe this as the self-reflexivity involved in human thinking-and-feeling. And with this we now move into the realm of logical conceptual levels which arise as we think.

Obviously, this kind of self-reflexive thinking creates the complexity and layeredness of thought upon thought, emotion upon emotion. As a result, we experience layers of thoughts upon thoughts and these build up upon each other to create even more complicated conceptual systems. To add a little bit more complexity to all of this, we then need to understand and realize that consciousness operates simultaneously at many different levels. We can not only have thoughts about something. We can also have thoughts about those previous thoughts. When we do, we jump up a logical level. And when we do this, we can expect even greater complexity to result because we build up layers of thoughts upon thoughts.

So meaning operates first from the associationswe build (the stuff in "the magic box") and then from the contexts (frames) that we put around the box. Meaning arises because we associate things. Meaning at this level represents the stuff in the magic box. Meaning also arises from the contexts (frames) that we put around the box. As we recognize these things, then we begin to truly understand "the magic box" of X = Y that we build out of Complex Equivalent and Cause-Effect structures. And this then leads to developing flexibility in maneuvering around the magic box in 7 directions.

8) Even "real" meanings may not serve us well. Inside our minds-and-bodies, whatever meaning we create becomes neurologically "real" to us. it puts us into "state." It governs our peuro-linguistic states of consciousness. It can then modulate both our central and autonomic nervous systems. Yet, though "real" in this sense—the meaning and the frame may , not serve us well at all. In fact, the meaning may operate as a sick,

I toxic meaning thereby making us sick and unable to live effectively. Consider the personalizing frame. Many people walk through life personalizing everything that happens.

"Whatever people say to me and whatever events I experience in the world—they are about me. They reflect on me and determine my value, worth, and adequacy as a human being."

. All frames do not serve us well. We therefore "run an ecology '.check" on frames and meanings to check them out. "Does this ^thought, emotion, state, belief, etc. serve me well?" "Will it enhance t my life, bring out my best, put me in a resourceful state, and ^empower me in reaching my goals?" "Will it enable me to act in a hway true to my values?" "Or will it limit me, reduce my [effectiveness, and put me at odds with my own highest values and ■'beliefs?"

.Conclusion p Mind-Lines deal with meaning. Yet what do we really mean by ; "meaning?" What does this refer to? Where is it? Where does it ^ccur? What does it consist of? Where did it come from? j< Mind-Lines can magically alter meaning precisely because ^meaning exists as a phenomena of two worlds—Plethora and ;Creatura. This half physical and half psychical creature pops in and ^out of our lives—now materializing, now vanishing. Yet with the ¿technology of reframing, we can now tame this beast, we can ^transform it. We can, in a word, become a true Dragon Master!

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