Refraining Meaning In The

The Magic of Changing "Reality"

'Those who control language control people's minds. Sloppy language invites sloppy thought." (George Orwell)

"I could have had a moment of restructuringmy neuro-semantics!" (Michael Hall)

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Reframe the EB by Redefining

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Reframe the IS by Redefining

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Reflexively Apply EB to Self/Listener

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Reflexively Apply IS to Self/Listener

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Counter-Example Framing

Do you feel ready to do some basic reframing? Do you feel up for it? While we gave you lots of theoretical stuff in the first three chapters (and if you need more for your addiction for understanding, check out Chapter 10), you actually don't need to know all of that stuff to do reframing.

Actually, all you really need to know with crystal clarity concerns the formula. You do remember the formula, do you not? This formula lies inside the box of the Mind-Lines Chart and highlights the most central facet of this whole neuro-linguistic/ neuro-semantic approach.

Look back to Chart 1:1 (page 44) for a moment. As you do, notice that at the very heart of meaning we have a semantic equation. This equation codes meanings of causation (C-E), meanings of equation (CEq), and meanings of identity (Id.). The equation, a simply X=YV or EB=IS summarizes very succinctly that as we move through life, we experience events (EB, External Behaviors, events, empirical see-hear-feel stimuli) and then to fhose events we attach meaning(or IS, Internal States). And we do so in a variety of ways that we have summarized as causation, linkage orassociation, and identity:

Cause that creates and leads to Effects (C-E)

Linkage that associates a meaning (thought-emotion) to an event (CEq)

Identifying that generates "identities" (personal and impersonal, Id.)

Here we truly enter into the wild and wonderful human world of meaning.

[By the way, people often use the term "semantics" to refer to language or words, rather than "meanings." They say, "Oh that's just semantics." And with that they complain about the term or phrase used rather than the "meaning" connected.]

Here we experience, and produce, the product of a human mind-body, a neuro-linguistic construct (or belief) wherein we connect, associate, relate, and equate something of the world of forces, physics, and energy (the world of Plethora, Bateson, 1972)—the EB—with something of the world of ideas, information, communication, organization (the world of Creatura). Bateson used the terms Plethora and Creatura to distinguish two very different realities. We commonly label these as "objective" and "subjective" realities.

These neuro-semantic constructions, as our maps of the world, our personal and professional paradigms, or our frames-of-

reference specify our beliefs. They create the context and frame within which we work, live, move, breathe, and feel. Yet sometimes they do not serve us well. Sometimes they make life a living hell. Sometimes they box us in and create all kinds of personal limitations.

At such times, we need to reframe. We need a paradigm shift to transform our limiting beliefs into enhancing beliefs. Whenever I (MH) say that, I think about the V-8 Juice commercials where someone slaps the top of his or her forehead with the palm of the hand and says, "I could have had a V-8!" Except, when I do it in this context, I see-and-hear, "/couldhave had a Paradigm-Shift!" We often need to experience a cognitive restructuring. ("I could have had a Cognitive Restructuring of my Neuro-Semantics!") "I could have experienced the world through an enhancing belief!"

In this chapter, you will find five ways to reframe your "realities." Do you remember the Paul Simon song, "40 Ways To Leave Your LoverJ? Well, in this book, you will learn 20 Ways To Change Your Reality. Or, perhaps a little less revolutionary, Lines for Changing Minds.

Back To The Playground

With the meaning formula in mind, we can translate any and every conversation into the EB=IS format so that we can then run the conversational reframing patterns. And again, we will use the following as playground equipment on which to train our intuitions.

(A) "Saying mean things makes you a bad person."

(B) "Cancer causes death."

(C) "Showing up late means that you dont care about me!"

(D) "Stress causes me to eat chocolate."

(E) "I cant really make a difference because management doesnt walk their talk."

(F) "I can't buy your product because it costs too much."

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