Getting Into A Magical State

Empowerment for the Mind-Liner

"Why can't I fly, Tinkerbell?" "To fly, Peter Pan, you've got to find your happy thoughts."

What kind of a state does a person have to access in order to operate optimally in using this Word Magic model? Due to the nature of neuro-iinguistic states, the state we begin with when we want to do some conversational reframing makes all the difference in the world. In fact, a person could have a mastery level of this model and yet not have the ability to use it—at certain times. "State" plays that much of a role.

So in order to learn the Mind-Unes Model and to have it at ready access—part of our training must involve state management and state development and access.

The Mind-Liner's State

In NLP, we speak of a person's mind-body state as comprised of his or her thoughts and physiology. The Meta-States Model rephrases these two facets of state by describing them as Comprising "the two royal roads to state."

Mind: thoughts, ideas, VAK representations, beliefs, knowledge, etc. Thus our internal representations made up of the sensory representational systems, words, etc. provide the cognitive road to the state.

Body: physiology, neurology, state of health, biochemistry, etc. Here how we stand, sit, move, breath, sleep, etc. plays a crucial role in our neuro-linguisticstates of consciousness.

Together, these comprise our mind-body system—an interactive system.

Supporting Beliefs To Build An Empowering "Magical" State

What supporting beliefs, understandings, knowledgebase, and values enable us to get into the kind of state optimal for learning and using Mind-Lines? In exploring this question, Bob and I began to model each other, and then others who seemed to quickly, easily, and automatically produce effective Word Magic in the context of objections, "problems," difficulties, etc. As a result, we collected the following list of supporting and empowering beliefs.

1 ) Every statement or objection has within it an answer. I (BB) believe and know that no matter what objection a person may raise with regard to a project, product, or service that we could offer—deep within the person's objection I will find an answer to it. We have another way that we express this, "Every objection carries within it its own solution."

Believing this and using it as an operational directive, puts us into a place of curiosity, interest, and respect. It empowers us to keep exploring, gathering information, and finding out numerous things about the person's model of the world: his or her drives, motives, values, objectives, interests, understandings, etc.

2) Every statement or objection involves feedback, never failure. This frame obviously utilizes one of the basic NLP presuppositions. It informs us not to code feedback as failure or give it any meaning about one's person. It only means feedback. Information.

Therefore staying emotionally neutral when undesired responses come our way empowers us to keep exploring, seeking first to understand, and thinking creatively of other alternatives to our objectives.

3) I take complete responsibility for the communication process that involves the giving and receiving of feedback. Since meaning doesn't exist in the external words, signals, gestures, etc. that I produce, but emerges from the mind of a meaning-maker, I never know what I have communicated. And, if I never know what I have communicated, I will therefore constantly elicit more responses, and seek for more feedback, and use such to keep adjusting myself to the person's current reality.

Doing this keeps me proactive, interested, alive, and vital. It keeps me from thinking or feeling like a victim. It gives me a sense of control over my own life and destiny.

4) I shall personalize nothing that occurs in the process of communication. At best it only represents information. Instead of personalizing, I shall recognize that I "am" so much more than all of my thoughts, feelings, speech, and behavior! I shall not reduce either myself or others by labeling, name-calling, insulting, orcontempting due to some piece of communicationthat seems disrespectful.

The giving and receiving of information in a communication exchange has really nothing to say about my identity or destiny. I refuse to allow myself to put my "self" on the line due to someone else's grumpy state. Sometimes I may have to write down a statement, and play with it for awhile, but eventually I will identify the magic formula within it.

5) 1 can detect and recognize meaning and frames in human experiences. This belief enables one to not feel overwhelmed by language, by words, by objections, or by statements. Such exists only as human constructs at best-constructs that we can detect and recognize. And as we do, we can formulate an understanding of the meanings involved and play with such—framing and reframingto our heart's content.

6) I know how meaning works and how we humans live in conceptual realities. This understanding empowers us to understand "meaning" as an internal job, as inside the mind of a meaning-maker, and as an association between things. Fully recognizing such as a mental map and as not real externally then saves us from the unsanity of confusing map and territory.

Therefore just because someone says something, that does not make it real! Therefore I do not have to take offense at any word—and do not have to feel bad due to "word phobia." At best whatever someone says exists only as a symbol.

7) I can jump logical levels in a single bound! Because meaning not only occurs at the primary level of experience, but also at meta-levels, this belief empowers one to work with and negotiate the meta-levels. And in communication exchanges, the person with the most flexibility in jumping logical levels will have the most influence.

Empowering States of the Mind-Liner

As a mind-liner, what state do you need to access and operate from so that you can live and experience these empowering beliefs?

State-dependent learning, memory, reception, speech, and behavior means that we need a high level and "magical" kind of state to use the patterns of word magic.

1) Flexibility. The most basic and primary state that empowers the use of this word magic involves our own personal flexibility— i.e, an open, changeable, flexible state of mind-and-emotion. This contrasts with states of rigidity, closeness, and Aristotelian thinking in terms of map/territory confusion, "This is that!

2) Playful. The playful state contrasts with the "serious" state and empowers us to take a playful attitude toward the existence and construction of meanings. So what do you need to do to get yourself into a playful mood about language?

3) Language awareness. In order to flexibly play with the mind-lines, we have to have a good knowledge base and awareness of language, and of how language works neuro-linguistically. This explains our emphasis here on the Meta-Model, the Meta-Programs, and Meta-States. These three meta-domains truly provide cutting-edge understandings about the factors that govern perception.

4) Meta-levels flexibility. Another kind of flexibility involves the ability to alter between levels and to "go meta"to access various meta-level concepts (i.e. time, causation, values, identity, ecology, consequences, abstraction, modeling, etc.) This comes from practice in stepping back and taking a larger perspective.

Problem States That Prevent Word Magic

Numerous states of mind and emotion make the whole domain of conversational reframing irrelevant. We therefore have to deal with these limiting states. We have to avoid them, and interrupt them if we happen to fall into one of them.

For example, if a salesperson gets into a state of fearing rejection, down and depressed about low sales, upset about finances, feeling desperate to make a sale, etc.—these do not describe the kind of states in which he or she can feel playful, flexible, cognitively alert, etc. So what can we do about such?

Why not simply reframe the meanings that create those states? This demonstrates the usefulness of this model. It not only empowers us to work effectively in communication and relationship with other people—it also empowers us to work effectively with ourselves. After all, the existence of our states, the expressions of those states, and the experience of such all result from the meanings and frames that we created or accepted. When we change those frames (when we reframe our own meanings), we thereby change our perceptions, emotions, and responses.

Earlier in this work, we included several reframes for "failure," depression, and other conceptual realities that frequently create limitations to effectiveness. Use such mind-lines on yourself to provide a way to get the full benefit from the word and neuro-linguistic magic of such.

Finally

In late 1997, Disney Studios put out a new version of Cinderella, loved the scene where the fairy god-mother started doing some of her magic. She created the carriage out of a pumpkin, horses from fnice, made a beautiful gown out of rags, and other wonder-filled transformations. Upon doing all of this, totally awestruck Cinderella thad to ask, "How did you do that?" To this the fairy god-mother replied, "/practice my magic." And may you also find yourself playfully practicing your magic y by day.

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