10 First Outcome Framing

In the previous move, outside of the magic belief box we shifted back in "time" to the intention that gave birth to the formula of belief. Then with Positive Prior Cause we moved back in "time" to attribute a causation to pre-frame a person into a place that allows them to become more resourceful.

Now let's move in the other direction, again, outside of the box. This time let's move into the future, to a time when the formula itself gives birth to outcomes and consequences. Directionalizing our brain in this direction will take us to the outcome of the behavior, belief, interaction, etc. And there we can begin to explore its effects and the value of these effects.

Conversationally, we essentially convey the following ideas with these mind-lines.

"Would you find this or that consequence desirable, useful, productive, enhancing, etc.?"

"When you think about that belief leading to this outcome, and then that outcome of that outcome, etc., do you like and want the belief to operate on you in these ways?"

With these mind-lines we will inquire about the consequences which a belief or behavior will (might, or could) elicit if we follow it out to its logical conclusion or let it run its course. Here we state the C-E prediction as to where the belief or behavior will take us or another. So, if you feel ready for this, get out your magic wand, and... on to the playground!

(A) "Saying mean things makes you a bad person."

"In the long run that belief will prevent people from speaking the truth to one another. How acceptable do you find that consequence for yourself and your relationships?"

(B) "Cancer causes death."

"A belief like that, as with all beliefs, will tend to operate as a self-fulfilling prophecy in your life. Such a belief typically also leads people to stop exploring their options. Do these things settle well with you?"

This First Outcome Framing shifts a person's frame-of-reference toward future results enabling them to do "consequential thinking" as they consider the continuation of present behavior. Projecting a person (a client or customer, friend, child, etc.) to the future consequences of a particular behavior can make something now perceived as positive look negative, or vice versa. These mind-lines engage in some guessing about the future or prophesying about the future.

(C) "When you show up late, it means you don't care about me."

"When you keep telling me that my being late means I don't care about you, but don't listen to how I do care about you, I feel frustrated and put off and wonder if we should even stay together. Is that the response you want from me—to back off from you or break off our relationship?" First Outcome Framing can also intensify an already perceived positive or negative perception.

(C) "When you show up late, it means you don't care about me."

You say, "My being late means I don't care. I think that such thinking will cause us to spend our evening unpleasantly arguing over who's right about this."

Or, "Half the people in the world process "time" using the In-Time style so that they get "lost in time." The In-Time style also means that they can arrive even 30 minutes or an hour late and not consider themselves late at all. So, your continuing to think this way will exclude you from relating positively to at least 50% of the population. Do you want that?" [See Time-Lining,Bodenhamer & Hall (1997)]

(D) "Stress causes me to eat chocolate."

"Are you prepared to gain weight and possibly get diabetes if you continue to believe that, or would you prefer to lose weight and experience great health?"

(E) "I can't really make a difference because management doesn't walk their talk."

"It doesn't sound like management has any chance in changing when people like you talk and believe like you do. Of course, since you don't make a difference, whatever you try can't hurt."

(F) "I can't buy your product because it costs too much."

"If you continue to think this way, you may not buy anything, especially anything of high quality. I wonder what that attitude will lead to if you apply it across the board to making purchases, and how that will orient you in life."

To elicit this Conversational Reframing Pattern from your conversations, ask the consequential question:

"What will happen if you continue to think this way?"

"Do you like this outcome as it plays out into the future?"

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