J Continue thinking about the choice.

The third option is not only counter-productive but becomes more so the longer it is maintained. Eventually it becomes the choice because that is where your mental energy is being directed.

The simplest solution to this problem is to decide not to make the third decision! In other words, the minute you recognise this spiralling whirlwind on your mental horizon, you should immediately choose 'Yes' or 'No' (the first or second option). The basic principle here is that it is more fruitful to have made some decision and to be implementing it, than to be in a state of paralysis.


Like all forms of thinking, dyadic decision-making requires training. Practise your decision-making skills by asking yourself the following questions:

• Should I change personal characteristic X?

• Should I join organisation X?

In the following 'object X' exercise, the basic idea is to find BOIs without having any data - in other words, to construct a set of questions that you can address to any object and which, as a set of enquiries, can serve as the basis for a full Mind Map once the object is identified. This exercise can also be done to help you analyse a question before you attempt to answer it. In the 'object X' exercise Mind Map overleaf, the main branches are explained as follows:

1 History - What are its origins? How did it develop?

2 Structure - What form does it take? How is it constructed? These enquiries can range from the molecular to the architectural.

3 Function - How does it work? What are its dynamics?

4 Role - What does it do: a) in the natural world? and b) in the human world?

5 Classification - How does it relate to other things? Again, this can range from very general animal, vegetable, mineral type questions to specific classifications such as species or the table of elements. You might like to try this exercise with one of the following 'object X' suggestions: horse, car, carbon, Spain, sun, God, stone, book, TV. Of course you can use anything else of your choosing. When you have finished this exercise, see if you can improve upon the basic set of basic Mind Map ideas (if so, let us have them!).

You can also create dyadic Mind Maps on areas of public debate, such as religion, politics, morality, the professions, or the educational system.

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The pace and intensity of our lives, both at work and at home, leave several of us feeling like a person riding a frantically galloping horse. Our day-to-day incessant busyness too much to do and not enough time; the pressure to produce and check off items on our to-do list by each day’s end seems to decide the direction and quality of our existence for us.

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