Going Wrong 5167

We often try to correct problems after something has gone wrong, rather than doing things ahead of time to make sure they go the way we want them to. The attempted correction often makes the problem worse.

V. Going for it 69-80

We all motivate ourselves to do things repeatedly throughout the day. Knowing how this works makes it possible to choose what we're motivated to do, and to use powerful positive feelings to do it. A way to change critical internal voices into friendly and useful allies is also demonstrated.

VI. Understanding Confusion 83-101

The ways we each organize our experience to understand something are unique, and can be directed and modified. Much can be learned by trying out someone else's way of understanding.

VII. Beyond Belief 103-115

Our brains code our internal experiences so that we know what we believe and what we don't. By directly accessing and changing this internal coding, it is possible to quickly change limiting beliefs about yourself into resourceful and empowering beliefs.

VIII. Learning 117-129

Our educational system has attempted to teach students content, rather than teach them how to learn. "School phobias" which prevent learning can be dealt with easily. Memory and "learning disabilities" arc also discussed.

IX. The Swish 131-152

By understanding how your brain links experiences, it is possible to make any problem situation into a cue for you to become more of who you want to be. This method provides a generative solution for almost any problem behavior or response. It is demonstrated with smoking and other habitual responses.

Afterword 155-159 Appendices 162-169 Selected Bibliography 170 Index 171-172


How often have you heard the phrase, "She has a bright future" or, "He has a colorful past"? Expressions like these are more than metaphors. They are precise descriptions of the speaker's internal thinking, and these descriptions are the key to learning how to change your own experience in useful ways. For instance, right now notice how you picture a pleasant future event in your own life . • . and then brighten that picture and notice how your feelings change. When you brighten that picture, do you "look forward" to it more? Most people respond more strongly to a brighter picture; a few respond more to a dimmer picture.

Now take a pleasant memory from your past and literally make the colors stronger and more intense. . . . How does having a "colorful past" change the intensity of your response to that memory? If you don't notice a difference in your feelings when you make your memory more colorful, try seeing that memory in black and white. As the image loses its color, typically your response will be weaker.

Another common expression is, "Add a little sparkle to your life." Think of another pleasant experience, and literally sprinkle your image of it with little shining points of sparkling light, and notice how that affects your feeling response. (Television advertisers and designers of sequined clothing know about this one!)

"Put your past behind you," is common advice for unpleasant

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