Most negative emotions are triggered by frustrated expectations.You wish, hope, or plan for something to happen in a certain way, and when it doesn't, you react with impatience and anger. This is quite normal. If you care about a result, you are going to be hurt if you don't achieve it.
The challenge is that emotions are triggered instantaneously. For this reason, you can have very little control over your emotions and reactions at the moment that something happens to you. It is too late. When the disappointment occurs, you will react instinctively and habitually, depending on your previous experiences. When things go wrong, it is too late for you to think of fine and noble thoughts.You simply react.
Epictetus, the Greek Stoic philosopher, once wrote, "Circumstances do not make the man; they only reveal him to himself," and to others, for that matter. It is not the adverse situation that builds your character so much as it reveals your character as it exists at that moment.
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