Exercise 211 Reading People

Many people have great difficulty in reading other people, because they also have difficulty in reading themselves. These people often spend so much time covering up their own frailties with fa├žades, internal blocks and verbal excuses that they often don't really bother getting to know others very well. All too often the non-thinking, emotional part of their brain expresses itself more frequently than the analytical, evaluating side of the brain. When such people do make an evaluation of another person, it often winds up being only an unconscious mirror version of what they have never admitted seeing in themselves. The more out of touch with yourself you are, the more inclined you are to produce a mirror reading of yourself for another person. When you learn to recognize undesirable emotional states in yourself, you're taking the 1st step toward changing these states. Reading other people accurately becomes easier for you then, because you act more like an observer.

Now as an exercise,

A) List 4 things in a notebook that would engulf you with compassion and love for your fellow man.

B) List 4 things that would fill you with happiness, joy or contentment.

C) List 4 things that would surge you with excitement.

D) List 4 things that would flare you into anger.

Misreading people and their intentions can often lead to trouble and great difficulty in your daily life. How you learn or don't learn from such difficulties can help OR hinder you later in life. Voice inflection, body mannerisms and eye expressions can be discerned subconsciously when you read people, or you can just as easily learn to read these signals consciously. For instance, great salespeople often observe carefully the body movements of potential customers. By mirroring and matching the body language and energy level of those they are about to sell to, good salespeople can thus establish a better buying receptivity in potential customers, because people generally feel more comfortable with other people that are like themselves.

How well do you feel you know your friends and relatives? Do you feel you see them as they are or as they pretend to be or both? First of all, let's see how you see yourself. Now look at the words and phrases on the next page, and choose the appropriate words applicable for your own personality by putting a check mark beside them. If you photostat this sheet ahead of time and give it to your friends and relatives, you can see how you see each other.

ADJECTIVAL EVALUATION SHEET

Fill in the name of the person.

Check those applicable words & phrases for the above individual:

argumentative

shrewd

materialistic

stuffy

diplomatic

vindictive

insecure

confident

insensitive

easily angered

jovial

trivial

selfish

unselfish

aggressive

timid

intelligence average

friendly

intelligence high

quick witted

talkative

adventurous

cautious

patient

impatient

erotic

contemplative

intense

caring

giving

submissive

deceptive

trustworthy

untrustworthy

disciplined

undisciplined

lazy minded

dangerous

materialistic

peaceful

close-minded

devious

efficient

independent

critical

childish

unstable

thoughtful

boisterous

inquisitive

curious

tolerant

intolerant

restrictive

domineering

secure

dishonest

honest

knowledgeable

skillful

quick learner

interesting

agreeable

intriguing

logical

illogical

emotionally stable

nervous

creative

healthy

unhealthy

loving

assertive

a leader type

understanding

candid

fearful

stubborn

frugal

wasteful

helpful

sloppy

compassionate

sympathetic

polite

open-minded

disagreeable

If there are any words you feel you would like to add to the list for your description, please do so.

If there are any words you feel you would like to add to the list for your description, please do so.

A Practial Guide To Self Hypnosis

A Practial Guide To Self Hypnosis

Hypnosis has been defined as a state of heightened suggestibility in which the subject is able to uncritically accept ideas for self-improvement and act on them appropriately. When a hypnotist hypnotizes his subject, it is known as hetero-hypnosis. When an individual puts himself into a state of hypnosis, it is known as self-hypnosis.

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